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Purpose and Meaning

Carolyn Myss, put it succinctly in Defy Gravity: that if we ask our ego for purpose and meaning, we will receive an answer that serves that ego. If we ask our soul, we will receive an answer that serves others.

That hit me so hard that I had to stop the CD and think for the rest of the drive.

How many times have I watched Oprah and wondered about my purpose? Even though I created my personal mission statement many years ago and understand the little moments in life in which I live to it; I am often looking for the BIG PURPOSE. What am I REALLY doing? At least now I know the answer.

When I am in that space I am looking for a purpose that will give me recognition. I’m looking for a way to become known for my great works.

And I’m thankful that my soul knows the difference. I’m grateful to my inner knowledge that helps me come back to myself and my true purpose. My teeny, tiny, moment-by-moment life path. My first step is always gratitude. It begins with love of myself and stretches toward the world around me and all who are in it with me.

Thank you, Carolyn, for putting into words a concept which I believe but had never articulated.

Life Student


Filed under More Teachers, Self-examination

High(er) Society

“Surround yourself only with people who are going to take you higher.”  Oprah Winfrey

I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships.

How does my circle of friends reflect my own values? Are my relationships feeding my soul? Is my social life lifting me higher?

I recognize a yearning and I want to be aware of whether it can be satisfied from without or within.  And so I have shuffled through a list of wants and needs.

In a friend…

  • I don’t need constant attention but I want to be seen.
  • I don’t need hours of intense philosophical discussion but I want to have meaningful conversations.
  • I don’t need my friends to agree with me but a sense of shared values creates a solid foundation.
  • I would love to have spontaneous friends but realize I must then develop my own ability to be spontaneous.
  • I don’t need to hear religious or spiritual beliefs, but I want to see and feel that the lives of my friends are on a path toward truth and compassion.

What I call a higher power, another may call God, Allah or Nirvana.

What I call spirituality another may call higher conciousness.

Perhaps the answer is simply to remain open to my life’s purpose and meet other students along the way.


Filed under Living our best life, The energy we put into the world comes back to us

My New Job

I’ve taken on a volunteer job.  It’s a post I created for myself and so I had time to envision great, selfless, helpful work that would go undone if I didn’t step into the breach.  My chest and my ego puffed up to such an intolerable size that I felt overcome with the joy of it all.

After all, I express myself well.  It is easy for me to chain words together in an meaningful way to be delivered to others in a tidy packet of love letters.  Why NOT offer my services to others?  After all, not everyone has this facility.


Down I come to reality.

It’s really hard to express someone else’s thoughts in someone else’s voice.  (Whine, whine.)  And suddenly I’m not able to write what I’m thinking and feeling, which would spring freely from my fingers to the keyboard.  Instead I am now responsible to walk through my day, mentally composing what someone might say to someone I haven’t met about an issue that may, in fact, be a bit unclear to me.

What a bummer!  And sometimes I’m even wrong.  I send my words and the recipient lets me know that I have totally misconstrued who they are, what they have done, and what they are trying to say.

More reality.  And what wonderful lessons for me.

What I have learned this week:

1.  I am not different.  I am not better.  I would do well to get out of myself.

Maya Angelou was my teacher in this one.  I have this vivid memory of her voice saying,  “How can I say I wouldn’t do that.  I’m human.  If another human has done it…I am capable of it.”*

I have had to dig deep to find a place of  commonality with someone who has great need due to thoughts or feelings that seem (to me) to be flawed.  I’ve had to learn about myself and realize that I may never have dug my hole so deep, but I have been there.  That since I am a mother, wife, sister, daughter; I can follow feelings that I have had (perhaps only for a moment) into their extremities and truly understand the difficulties that arise in relationships.

I’ve come to realize, once again, that I come from a place of great resource and privilege.  I have had the luxury of time for thought, of access to counselors and mentors and of a base financial support that allowed me great choices in my life.  There, but for the grace of God, go I.

I’ve had to read and re-read requests.  I’ve needed to wallow in the pain of others in order to comprehend.  And I’ve needed to let go of perfection.

I will not be able to “fix” the situations of others.  I won’t be able to say the wonderful words that will heal all wounds.  And I can’t always express the love one person feels for another, nor the different ways it may be expressed.  But I can begin the process for those who have asked.  I can give the bare bones of construction of words that may help them build toward their own success.
Because it isn’t my success that it necessary.
So my new job isn’t what I thought.  It’s self-examination.  It’s stepping out of my ego.  And it’s learning.  That’s good for me.
The Student

*This is not a direct quote.  I have freely paraphrased from her interview on “Master Class” on OWN TV.


Filed under Master Class, etc., Self-examination, Twelve Steps