“Present-moment living, getting in touch with your now, is at the heart of effective living. When you think about it, there really is no other moment you can live. Now is all there is, and the future is just another present moment to live when it arrives.” Wayne Dyer
The concept that the present moment has all that we need has been confusing to me. I am now, however, at peace with it.Thich Nhat Hanh‘s quote resonates with me. “Find joy and peace in this very moment.”
If I didn’t have all that I need in this very moment, I would not be breathing. I would not be thinking. I would not be analyzing. I would not be here writing.
I find great peace when I can be here.
I’m not worried about my loss yesterday. I’m not worried about what I need tomorrow.
Many years of practice have not perfected my ability to stay present. I don’t often look back, but I can easily leap into the future. I can plan. I can calculate. I can anticipate.
Nothing is better than this moment.
“Patience is the training in abiding with the restlessness of our energy and letting things evolve at their own speed.” Pema Chodron
“The practice of patience guards us against losing our presence of mind. It enables us to remain undisturbed, even when the situation is really difficult. (…) rather than being driven by our disturbing emotions.” Dalai Lama
“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” Joyce Meyer
The waiting game is difficult until I settle down and learn the rules. Really, they are the same as the rules of life.
1. The present moment is all I have. I am happiest when I can relax in it and not waste it on worry or fast-forwarding.
2. It is what it is. No amount of mental and emotional machinations will change what it is.
3. Whatever the outcome – good news/bad news – he calls/he doesn’t call – it arrives/it doesn’t arrive..I will deal with it. I am capable and strong and can be flexible.
4.The best I can do for myself is to continue my life as I would do if I weren’t waiting.
Remembering the rules is the trick, isn’t it?
Monks from Gongkar Chödey Monastery perform a ritual Cham dance welcoming His Holiness the Dalai Lama to an elaborate Long Life Prayer at the Main Tibetan Temple in Dharamsala, HP, India on March 4, 2015. Photo/Tenzin Choejor/OHHDL
Social media has provided me with a moving account from my son and daughter as they encountered His Holiness the Dalai Lama at Dharmasala, India during the Long Life Offering Ceremony in his honor on March 4, 2015. I have chills as I sit in my living room in Souhern Oregon and live it in my mind’s eye.
The most striking thing about being in India for this ceremony was not the rich color and panoply of Tibetan costumes. It wasn’t the devotion of the monks or of his followers. It was his presence.
My son and daughter had the privilege to be in the presence of true presence. They described his prayerful demeanor as he truly looked into the eyes of those within is vision. Tears filled the eyes of my children and of others who were affected by the absolute soul attention of a man whose message is that one shoo be with each moment in life.
When I heard their account and shivered with the impact I wondered at the impact that each of us can have if we practice being present in a profound way. What change could we facilitate if we met even five people each day in this way – if we could hold to this path for a fraction of our time.
This reminds me that my presence in my meditation is not all that is required.