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Life Pursuits

A friend expressed her confusion about how to be happy. I told her that I don’t pursue happiness. Contentment? Peace? Acceptance? Yes. Throw in joy when available and I am happy.

So then I am wondering…do I pursue any of these? I don’t think so. And still, perhaps, I call it by different names.

Well, I don’t think I can chase joy. It comes to  me unbidden. I can only open myself to the moments as they open themselves to me. I am grateful for it and  revel in joy when it comes.

And meaning in life is very important to me. Is my sorting anc culling of what is important in a day a pursuit of meaning? Or does my great pleasure in learning indicate that I am pursuing knowledge in search of some answer? When I corral my errant mind to the present moment and practic mindfulness, am I chasing after peace?

Is all of this the pursuit of happiness?

Life Student



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Happiness = Meaning = Happiness

“… happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself…” Viktor E. Frankl

This sounds like a core value and truth to me. The pursuit of happiness takes me down blind alleys of disappointment.

I have long known myself to be a purpose-driven person. I seek meaningful thought or action every day of my life. This brings me hours of what I would call contentment and mements of joy. That is happiness enough for me.

I can tell myself that my means escapism, numbing, resistance and avoidance are ways of taking me from my real life in an attempt to make myself happy. I know better, even as I am in such states.

And so I go back to my equation: meaning = happiness.

The Student

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Freedom to Fly

frigates in MexicoBirds make great sky-circles of their freedom.
How do they learn it?
They fall and falling,
they’re given wings.” Rumi

My spirit wants freedom.

I have lived my life with purpose and intention.  And sometimes when we make decisions in life, those decisions are irrevocable. They give form and substance to future choices, guiding us on a path beyond our wildest imaginings; sometimes joyful, sometimes sad.

Have I now paid the price? Have I redeemed my own life and made it possible to be free? Well, perhaps within the confines…

I think of my children and grandchildren and know that although I am important to them, I am no longer necessary. I have forged an immutable bond with my husband that will withstand all but betrayal.

Does this leave me free?

It is only my mind that binds me to the structure of the past.

What do I want from the future? I can’t define it.

I want less. I want more. I want nothing. I want everything.

I want joy. I have joy. I need only clear the way for it to erupt like a beautiful volcano into every color of the spectrum.

Red for the joy of passion.

Blue for the cool water and sky that surrounds me and gives me peace and contentment.

Green for the freshness of ideas and concepts that skip through my mind and thrill me with their possibilities.

Yellow for sheer happiness. For sun and smiles, daffodils and buttercups. Yellow to reflect against my chin, like a child, telling me that I am filled with boundless love.

If I set myself free to widen my circles of flight perhaps my joy will spread to those I love.

The Student


March 4, 2013 · 8:11 am