Being Heard

“I don’t need a cloak to become invisible,” Dumbledore,  in Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone,  J.K. Rowling

I hate not to be heard. I feel invalidated. The anger that rises within me is out of proportion to the situation. Why?

Without finding an answer I can still reach equilibrium.

I can know that I am loved by myself and others. I can understand that others’ distance, disinterest or deafness is not a personal affront to me. Even when it is directed toward me it rarely comes from ill-intent or lack of love.

The first thing I must do for myself is understand that I have what I need within me. That if necessary I can pour my love and connection into a vacuum and still be a whole person. I cannot be diminished by others or by their actions.

Then I want to examine myself and my own behavior. I must sometimes be guilty of the same behavior that I rebel against. Do I always listen? Do I always hear? Am I paying attention? Am I present?

Still time enough to explore the sore spots that feel re-injured when my voice doesn’t carry.

The Student

 

 

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2 responses to “Being Heard

  1. Yes, most of the time people are just preoccupied with their own lives, rather than deliberately ignoring others. And you’re quite right that none of us can truthfully claim to always pay attention. A pause for reflection in such situations is indeed advisable. Thanks for this thoughtful entry!

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