Why is it so easy for me to accept others’ assessment of me…good or bad?
Deepak Chopra defines self-referral as “The experience (…) that our internal reference point is our own spirit, and not the objects of our experience. The opposite of self-referral is object-referral. In object-referral we are always influenced by objects outside the Self, which include situations, circumstances, people, and things. In object-referral we are constantly seeking the approval of others. Our thinking and our behavior are always in anticipation of a response.”
This seems simple. I, after all, live with me on a day-by-day basis. I may not know who I am all of the time, but I surely know who I am not.
Even still, I am struggling to see myself as worthy because I have been judged as unworthy. I am questioning my heart because I have been told that my love isn’t pure and true. Mean and thoughtless acts have been attributed to me and so I am questioning my motives.
Before I can totally deny all allegations I must examine my feelings of joy when someone finds me wonderful. I need to remember that I have been given credit for worthy deeds and accepted accolades.
Ultimately, I check in with my own soul. I expand with the peace and love within and return to what is true for me.
It’s a journey.